This week’s sermon shows us yet another way that we can bring glory to GOD in our marriages…by playing the roles that GOD designed for us. We see in scripture that the roles that a man and woman play in a marriage are different, but they are equal. By acknowledging these roles and submitting to them we bring glory to GOD through the perfection of his design in marriage!
As a group, discuss the quote below from Dietrich Bonhoeffer:
“Marriage is more than your love for each other…In your love you see only the heaven of your own happiness, but in marriage you are placed at a post of responsibility towards the world and mankind. Your love is your own private possession, but marriage is more than something personal—it is a status, and office. Just as it is the crown and not merely the will to rule, that makes the king, so it is marriage, and not merely your love for each other, that joins you together in the sight of GOD and man.”
- If GOD was so purposeful as to design marriage to play a specific role for ministry and society (marriage is a status, responsibility, and an office) do you think that He would have then left it up to us to determine the roles to be played within marriage?
- As a group turn to Mark 10:6-9. These verses, quoted from Gen 1:27, speak to the union of marriage. But v6 addresses the roles that GOD specifically designed within marriage. As a group, discuss v6 and how it points to designed roles within a marriage.
- As a group, discuss the term “blasphemy”. How would you define it?
- Since marriage is an institution designed by GOD with specific roles and to serve a specific purpose, discuss as a group, whether or not a marriage that rejects GOD’s purpose and GOD’s designed roles would be considered blasphemous?
Sunday’s passage was from Ephesians 5:22-27. These verses and the next six (v28-33) speak very clearly about the difference in the way that a husband and wife serve each other. But Paul says something very important in v21 of Eph 5 that will bring clarity to the issue of gender roles within a marriage.
5). Turn to Eph 5:18-21. As you read these verses as a group ask the question, “what is it that makes the mutual submission in v.21 possible?”
- In this passage we see JESUS wash the feet of His apostles. This is a very clear picture of the Groom serving the Bride. We also see that the apostles are not sure how to take this act of servanthood from JESUS. But the question that we want to ask ourselves is this, “Did this act of servanthood cause the apostles to question JESUS as their leader?
Marriage is more than a legal contract and a civil union. It is more than tax breaks, a wedding cake, a beautiful wedding reception, and a marriage license; it is a union that has a specific purpose…to bring GOD glory! In order to us to bring GOD glory, we must acknowledge His plan, His purpose, and His designed roles for marriage. But we must never used these roles as an excuse to avoid being a servant. JESUS was the unquestioned leader of the apostles, yet he was still humble enough to serve them in many ways.